What is your purpose? What does God want you to do?

We all have a purpose here on earth. The purpose differs for each person.

It is so important to know what your purpose is so that you can live a fulfilled life, one that you feel so happy about and one that allows you to have excitement to wake up to each day.

If God spoke to you, what would he/she say?


What to do when your heart has a void

Throughout our lifetime we will experience loss – be it the end of a relationship or be it someone physically leaves our life. Sometimes this loss is the loss of a job or loss of a part of our body/health. In any of these events we do experience a grieving process. As we truly have lost something.

I had this amazing weekend of self-reflection and self-love. I felt so aligned to my purpose and what I needed to do this. I know you are thinking, well if you had such an amazing weekend while such a heavy topic? First of all, I am a little quirky like that. I can experience my highs and my lows at the same time. Mastering this skill has allowed me to recognize that there is a constantly a duality of emotions and sometimes even plurality. We can experience happiness and still have parts of us feel sad or we can thrive while we grieve (yes, I just plugged my story in Chicken Soup for the Soul:).

This morning I woke up and felt this longing to see my uncle and my brother. Today is my uncle’s birthday. He was like a father to me in many ways as he understood my quirkiness and celebrated it. My brother I was missing as I spent some time in Venice Beach, which was one of his last trips. When I am truly in a place of where I am supposed to be, I feel his angel like presence with me.

The spiritual aspect of me has always understood when there is a loss in my life – the end of relationship, job or even physical that it was just meant to be that way and that is life. The human side is a force to reckon with. The human side is feeling the emptiness and darkness and wondering “WHY.” It almost feels like my heart has a gaping hole that can not be filled. Even though it may be sunny outside, there is darkness that surrounds me. Sometimes I will just sleep longer in hopes I wake up to seeing the light and that the hole is filled with hope and joy again and other times, I wake up and acknowledge that it is there but I robotically move forward with life. Then there are days I say “Screw this feeling, I have a reason why I am still here on earth. I have a purpose in helping to make this world a better place. I am here to do the work that God can not do on his/her own.”

Lately, I have always awaken to the feeling of “Screw this self-pity,” but today the emptiness showed up.

I was fortunate that I had such a powerful weekend and was shown again that I was chosen by God to be here and to do particular work. I was here living still because God wanted me to help him end suffering.

For each of us it doesn’t have to be a grand life purpose that you are changing the world and for some it is. Sometimes the change in the world is that you are in it and parenting a child or you are an angel in someone else’s life that you bring a smile to their face. Sometimes the gift you bring to this world is your presence and how you love and show others their best and worst aspects of themselves. Maybe your purpose is that your job is contributing to a company that impacts others. And sometimes you become a leader where you are leading thousands and millions to be better versions of themselves.

It is important to step into your purpose each day no matter how your heart feels or how dark the world may seem. The darkness will only feel light and be light if you are being in the place of contribution and service, whatever that may look like for you today. Maybe you pour some extra love into the lunches you make or you treat your co-worker to lunch. That itself is being of contribution.

Ask yourself – how can I be of greater contribution and service today, this week and this year? Listen to the light in your heart to hear what your heart wants.

When you are really missing a person or a situation, celebrate them. Remember what they brought into your life and have gratitude for it. The more you focus on the gratitude, the more you will be surprised how that same feeling shows up with different people and different situations and better.

PS: I am loving this song as for me it speaks to when will I see the person again but also the light within myself again.


Reflection after loss = inspire others to live their purpose

It’s Chinese New Year. The day for new beginning, settling into new years and reflecting on the past year.

For me this reflection has included supporting my family through the loss of a loved one, in person and through meditation.

We had another young family member passed onto the other side this week. He was 33. Super kind, amazing soul. His wife, my cousin, has amazing strength. Her faith and determination to ensure he would get better was unwavering. It really showed no matter what we want for another person, it is their own journey. Others make choices for themselves that no one else can alter no matter how much we support them or love them. Their 8 year old son, has shown me how it is so important to feel and express emotions in the moment that we are present.

I have been reflecting on the last two years and how our family has had the passing of three young individuals, all 32 or 33. My reflection was on my life and on what lessons we can learn from this.

Watching the transition of my those around me has been eye opening. I noticed each person reclaimed their selves back from the grief and sadness in different ways. Some went into victim, others stayed in pain while others threw themselves into a project or took the actions they always wanted to take. Others made decisions that they had been pondering for some time that they knew it would change their lives.

Was any of what each person did wrong? No. They did what their journey required of them at that moment.

The commonality was that all of them irrelevant of what they did, all realized how important it was for them to be happy and healthy. They all took steps in becoming happier or healthier. Many of them also pondered their life purpose and how they were going to live it.

For those who haven’t suffered loss, they do not understand what the person is going through that is moving through the motions and emotions of loss. I wish no one had to go through the pain, anguish, darkness of loss but it is a fact of life.

Those who have not suffered do not understand there will be ups and downs. There will be moments of happiness and sadness and if this lasts for a long period of time then there is a space for concern but in the meantime, allow them to feel what they are feeling.

Unprocessed emotions is the core of all disease. The flowing through emotion allows it to be processed and moved through the body so the individual can be healthier.

Staying in that emotion for an extended time period is unhealthy. This extended time period will vary from 2 minutes to days but it is dependent on where the individual is with their journey.

I have also observed that living your life purpose keeps you here longer on earth. It is so important to support yourself and others to live their life purpose. It gives your life meaning as you are contributing and growing. You will be more satisfied and more fulfilled and also healthier.

The life purpose can be anything from putting a smile on someone’s fade through customer service to changing the way the world lives. It is all life purpose and you contributing to making this world a better place.

Many people are confused about what they really want to do, or they are in a role or a company that is not fulfilling them fully. I urge you (and if your loved one is in that place, support them) to really hone in how you want to contribute in a way that makes you really, really happy. Happy in a way that your heart sings. If you need support, email me and I can send you resources on next steps.

Loss is an eye opener for those who survive. It is an opportunity to reevaluate our own Iife to determine what we need to do to be happier and healthier.

Love and light.